Most people who are estranged from their families did not make the decision lightly. For many, it was a decision that was forced upon them because of the toxic and abusive environment they were raised in. If you are in this situation, you are not alone.There are many people who have been estranged from their families, and many more who are currently going through it. It can be a very difficult and isolating experience, but there are ways to cope. Here are some things that may help:

  • Find a support group: There are often local support groups for people who have been estranged from their families. This can be a great way to meet other people in similar situations and to share experiences and advice.
  • Talk to a therapist: If you are struggling to cope with the estrangement, talking to a therapist can be a great way to get support and guidance.
  • Reach out to other family members: If you have other family members who are not estranged from you, reaching out to them can help you feel less alone.
  • Focus on your own happiness: Establishing your own happiness is crucial. Do things that make you happy and make you feel good about yourself. This can be anything from taking up a new hobby to spending time with friends and family.

Now this is a message for Prince Henry and Meghan Markle

You can hurt once instead of hurting all the time over everything. You will feel sad at those birthdays and holidays, but both sides have to be willing to work on reconciliation, not just one side. Your soul can rest knowing you tried. What was your crime? What was your wife’s crime?

What was worse than what Prince Andrew did? Was he shunned? It’s sad that such psychosis has to be played out in the public eye, but I assure you…the same scenario is being played out in a myriad of lives all over the planet. Race, Class, Wealth, Family Loyalties, Judgmental Outsiders, Haters. On and on.

But you, Prince Harry chose to step outside of the bubble as your mother did…and love as she did. So, you’ll be punished for that at every opportunity. Me, personally, I waited too long, I should have severed ties with my family long ago, but I believed people could change if I was only nicer to them. If only I was “good enough”, “gave enough”, or “took enough”…to win them over.

But it only takes one bad apple, one malcontent to turn an already bitter lot against you for choosing to shine in this…sometimes dark and very brief lifetime. But people make their choices. Some, maybe even a small majority of people would rather hold onto those bitter rotten apples of resentment, regret…color and race, than to embrace love and happiness. They do this because it is easier than dealing with the guilt they have for what they have done. They cannot take that kind of constant reminder.

I came to accept that my blood relative made their alliances and decisions about me long ago, and I was never a factor in their reasoning. I can never be good enough to heal someone of the sickness of racism. It’s too deep and dark. That’s their journey. It’s not easy, Harry and Meghan, but sometimes it’s necessary to cut ties for your own mental health, wellbeing, and happiness. You and your spouse are one. What others think doesn’t mean anything, and don’t you EVER let them disrespect you, your spouse or your children again! They are not God. Who would get in love’s way or treat a 1 year-old badly? People tell on themselves without even knowing it.

“Better a dry crust where there’s love…”

I would leave and I would never look back. The shame is all theirs and the British people, and they’ll eventually kick themselves for treating a baby differently.

Leave it to The Irish Times to run up and down the British Royal Hypocrisy. Well said. And it’s so interesting as a Biracial person, who has been treated differently by both sides, all my life…we are told “It’s all in your imagination” and the slights are “No big deal,” “People deal with real racism, not you.” Well, I get it Meghan Markle…I get it. Your baby is perfect.

Harry and Meghan, your’e royals to us. And that’s what’s burning them up. One son took after the People’s Princess and one son took after the Crown.