We live in a time where it’s all too easy to follow the crowd. Everyone’s got an opinion, and sometimes it feels like if you’re not taking sides, you’re being left behind. The media, political figures, even billionaires—they all seem to be pointing fingers, telling us who the “enemy” is. But what if I told you that blindly picking enemies without truly thinking for yourself could be setting you up for a collision course with reality?
My sister Dot once said, “If you wanna get ass, you gotta bring ass.” Translation: If you’re gonna start a fight, you’d better be ready to face the consequences and take the hit if things don’t go your way. Simple but profound. We’ve all seen people—whether online or in real life—pick fights they aren’t prepared to finish. And they often fail to realize that the world doesn’t work the way they think it does. Too often, people fall into the trap of labeling others as enemies, merely because someone else told them to. In a political climate rife with division and animosity, it’s easy to believe the hype and align yourself with the loudest voices. But here’s the thing: this mindset can turn dangerous. People sometimes think they have a personal security detail, like the political leaders or billionaires they idolize, and that there will be no real consequences for their threats or actions.
It’s as if they assume that by picking a side, they can avoid the fallout. But that’s not how the world works. Think about it—there’s an old horror movie trope that comes to mind. You’ve probably seen it: the girl, running away from the bad guy, locks herself in a car thinking she’s safe. But, plot twist, the real danger is already sitting in the back seat. It’s a classic, right?
But you know what? It’s also a metaphor for how we often set ourselves up for trouble by acting out of fear, suspicion, or herd mentality, without doing the work to think for ourselves. My point here is simple: people screw themselves out of good things all the time because they let others dictate who the “villains” are in their lives. Rumors, political rhetoric, and viral headlines make us believe certain groups or individuals are the enemy, when in reality, those labels may be completely misplaced.
When you let others shape your narrative, you lose the ability to make informed decisions for yourself. This takes me back to an old movie scene I can’t quite place, but it’s stuck with me. A detective tells a wealthy widow, “You know that family… they’re a bunch of swindlers with criminal records.” The widow, cool and collected, replies, “I take people as I find them, not as others find them.” In a world where everything is polarized, this wisdom is more relevant than ever.
Instead of letting others tell you who to fear, judge people based on your own experience and intuition. The moment you stop thinking for yourself, you lose control over your own destiny. It’s time to start asking questions. Are the people you’re labeling as enemies really your enemies, or are you just following a script that was handed to you? Are you responding to the world around you or simply reacting because it feels easier?
It’s easy to follow the loudest voice in the room, but remember, that voice isn’t always speaking for you. Learning to think for yourself—questioning what you hear, exploring different perspectives, and making decisions based on your own judgment—can be one of the most powerful tools you possess. It’s not just about avoiding fights; it’s about knowing when to walk away from drama, knowing who to trust, and, most importantly, avoiding unnecessary conflicts. In today’s politically charged climate, it’s tempting to pick sides and start labeling people as “the enemy.”
But before you do, remember: if you’re going to fight, you better be prepared to face the consequences. And if you’re not careful, you might just find yourself in a collision course with reality, with no way out. So, let’s stop letting others tell us who to fear. Let’s start thinking for ourselves and creating our own narratives—ones that don’t involve unnecessary conflict or a misguided sense of security. The real power is in thinking critically and acting with purpose, not reacting mindlessly to the division that surrounds us.
Found the film The Young in Heart (1938)
