Years ago, a lesbian friend gave me wisdom I never forgot. When I complained about only attracting older women, she said without hesitation: “That’s a good thing, because nobody knows quality better than an older woman.”
Age gaps never bothered me. My father was much older than my mother, and I was his caregiver in his later years. I’ve experienced firsthand how the best conversations come from those with wisdom and experience.
That said, I’m at a point where I want children. Those who judge someone for dating someone half their age don’t understand that at my stage of life, that’s actually appropriate. People who lack accomplishment tend to judge others the most, and in this country, we have no shortage of those types.
I’ve reached a point where I no longer have time for rudeness or fools. I speak honestly, though not unkindly. As Warren Buffett says, “Honesty is expensive, don’t expect it from cheap people.”
As far as friends go, I don’t care about your race, sexuality, age, size, wealth, or gender. I only ask: “Are you kind?” and “How do you treat others?” The most dangerous people are those who don’t like themselves—their insecurity can derail your life.
Don’t waste energy on those who argue with you or show indifference. Some will resent you simply for having standards. Let them go.
Value both the wisdom of age and the potential of youth. Remember that youth and beauty are no more accomplishments than being born tall or thin. Build character instead. Learn to discern quality, keep your word, have follow-through and integrity. Learn to spot value, hold a conversation, give support, and regulate your emotions.
Maturity is beautiful but requires work and self-development. When youth fades, you’ll barely notice if you’ve built something meaningful within.
Choose carefully who you welcome into your life—not everyone means you well. I speak from experience: the wrong company can cost you dearly. Let the right ones in, and don’t fight to hold on to the wrong ones.
